Bruises

After some time you learn to distinguish the subtle differences between holding someone in your arms and embracing someone in your soul and you learn that love does not mean having sex, just like having company does not mean feeling safe. You start to learn that a kiss is not a contract and that a gift is not a promise that you kept, you start to accept your defeats with your head up high and your eyes wide open. You start to build your pathways on “today” because “tomorrow’s” earthquake is too unsafe for plans and the future has a unique way of falling into pieces… Then you realize that when something, anything is too much, even the sun can burn you, and you try to be balance’s best friend.

So you grow your own garden and furnish your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers; you realize that you can really be strong, that you can really get through things and that you are worth it, you learn something new every day. As time passes, you learn that being with someone just because they offer you a good future means that sooner or later you will want to return to your past.

With time you comprehend that only who is capable of loving you with all your flaws and won’t try to change you can provide all the happiness that you will ever need. You realize that if you are next to that person just to end your own solitude, you are inevitably going to end up wishing you were alone.

As time goes by, you understand that the best friends are numbered and that those who don’t fight for them sooner or later will have countless acquaintances… Life teaches you that the words you say while you are angry can damage someone for a lifetime.

You realize that anyone can forgive, but forgetting is for the greatest ones… You know that when you hurt a friend harshly the friendship probably won’t be the same. You learn that even if you are happy with your actual friends someday you will long for those you left behind.

Someday you will realize that every experience you live with each person is never going to be recreated, because it will be impossible to recreate, life teaches you that rushing things and forcing them to happen will alter the result, that in reality the best thing is never the future, but the moment that you were living while you were thinking of it.

But unfortunately, we only learn with time and with scars.